Your Identity Is NOT For Sale

Updated: May 23, 2019

Today is not a holiday or any other day that would seem different from the rest. However, a year ago today my world stopped.

I remember the feeling just as if it was yesturday. A feeling of being sucker punched. A wave of shock, denial, anger, grief, hurt, and abandonment. A feeling of all the oxygen in my lungs being sucked out while trapped, drowning, as waves of reality set in. Life as I knew it would never be the same.

Since then, the journey I have taken to heal has felt like the longest year of my life. I lost my identity. I lost my ability to smile, laugh, or feel anything; all while feeling everything at the same time.

I have spent much of this year battling silence and noise; all while trying to find myself in between the two.

Here is my journey on how I found my identity after facing crisis and earth shattering adversities.


When you meet someone, what do you judge them on? Do you label their identity with your own assumptions based on bias, stereotypes, and past exposure?

Do you compare yourself? Do you desperately search for flaws or enter a silent competition with everyone because your ego and insecurities are constantly waging war on your own identity? Are you hiding behind an Instagram Valencia filter hoping that no one sees your mask is starting to pixelated because you are pretending your identity is something that it was never destined to be?

Are you the girl who speaks too softly, feels like she has no voice, and consistently remains in bondage over her own inner demons whispering lies in her ear? Lies that only chip away at your self-worth until there is nothing left but an empty, lifeless, shell of a woman who is moments away from collapsing in exhaustion from feeling the pressure of never feeling that she is enough?

Or, do you allow feelings of bitterness, anger, self-doubt, insecurities, and self-pity to attach their stain of vulgarity, manifesting like cancer into the innermost core of your thoughts and very DNA?

If we allow ourselves to continue buying into the propaganda of commercialized comparison, we are all going to end up on the same dead-end road that leads to nowhere, while being haunted by all the shadows that cast their darkness over the beauty of our true identity. 

Quotes about self worth

Societies commercialized marketing of what you “need” to "feel" like you are enough has victimized every single woman.

I can identify with all the real feelings and emotions of insecurities, lack of self-worth, pressures to be perfect, and not living up to what I thought was enough. We have all thought or experienced these very real feelings at some point; and many of us are still battling with inner demons that thrive on chipping away our identity.

We must deal with the root of the cause before we can eliminate the symptoms that hold us hostage.

You must stop running from dealing, hiding from healing, and pretending to be perfect; or you will never find the happiness that we all are desperately seeking.

We are faced with decisions that make us question our existence and lose our identity. It takes intention and dedication to the process of personal development to be able to find your own identity that r